Eversince we started planning our wedding, we never had an argument about any of the details, until last night.
We were finalising the entourage list for the invites and he was insisting on putting the middle initial of every single member of the entourage. The thing is, here in the UK, one’s middle initial is actually the middle name unlike in the Philippines where it is your mother’s surname. I told him i didn’t want the hassle of phoning people just to confirm their frigging initials but he was insistent. In the end i had to give in on the condition that HE will do all the asking.
Second argument was about RSVP. I didn’t want our names on the RSVP since we won’t be arriving till the 5th of December, i prefer it to be done by our coordinator since it’s part of the service they offer. Also, i don’t want people ringing us to say “can we bring someone along” even if the reserved number of seat is already on the invite. I just want to avoid people being offended if we can give in to requests.
Lastly, a lot of G and my dad’s kababayans in the province are hinting on our relatives parang nagpapa-imbita. At the very beginning, G and i agreed that it will be a family and friends only affair. It just so happened that i came from a big family both on my mum and dad’s side. G, although their immediate family is small, is really close to his dad’s cousins and his 2nd cousins so again, big numbers. At the moment our guest list is at 201 and our booking is for 200 so i refuse to invite those who volunteer to attend.
I maybe a bit harsh here, but these people who wants to be invited has not acknowledge my existence until now. Excuse me. Deadma na kung deadma. My mum offered to pay for the “extra” people but i flatly refused. That would defeat the purpose of having a family and friends only celebration.
Someone told me that i’m being a bit selfish because these people only want to share in our happiness. I don’t think so. They only want to be there so that they can nit-pick and gather chismis that they can broadcast to the whole baranggay. It’s a sad reality. They’ve done it before, they are likely to do it again. Not on my wedding, though. NEVER.
yiiikesss…
i hope you get to settle this all soon and amicably…
hay naku. i know what you mean about those nagpapaimbita. kapal! don’t worry, every bride is allowed to rant. it’s your day, anyway =D
It’s your wedding and you can very well do what you please. At totoo yung sinabi mo, minsan gusto lang nilang pumunta para may pintasan sila kinabukasan. If they really want to share in your happiness, e di tumawag sila at i-congratulate kayo, or they can host a dinner where you are the guests of honor and be happy there for you, or they can send you a heartfelt card telling you all the wonderful things they wish for you and G. Why do they have to be at the wedding when they know earlier on that there are only a limited no. of guests, when they know that the limited no. of guests refer to CLOSE friends and family and when they know very well that they have never been, and have never made the effort to be close to you in the first place?
Hay naku… sino na nga ba nagra-rant dito… ikaw o ako? ehehe
I don’t think you’re being selfish. It’s your wedding; you’re not having the ceremony to please anybody.
It must be so stressful dealing with things like this. What ever way you try to sort things out, there will always be people who get disappointed or unsatisfied. I hope you won’t let this affect you. Best wishes!
Oh, I’ll never forget your birthday. It’s the same day as my son’s.
Hi Notsquare >> it’s all settled now, we’ve agreed to disagree. hehehe.
Hi Cheche >> ayako kasi maging bridezilla but sometimes i can’t help it
Hi Ate Jet and Soy thanks. at least i know i’m not being selfish and irrational.
haynakowpow invite mo na buong barangay para masaya hahahaha!!!! nervermind mare, all is well and can’t wait to see the dvd and op kors your dress bongacious mo ha!!!
awww tama ka its your wedding and you can invite ONLY people you want to be with on YOUR day.
Good for you den!
*hugs* and *breathe* sis…
so long as you and the groom-to-be are agreed on the more important aspects, you should do alright… or at least, have the most minimum of hassles…
and yes, wedding guests should be limited to close friends and family only…
Yey, so it’s finally settled…
Dyosa >> hahaha. salamat sa pagbisita.
Thanks Ayeza
Hi Delish >> thanks.
Hi Te linnor >> yup, it’s settled.
I’m sorry Denden that you have to go through that. I think almost all weddings go through some type of drama. We had that issue too (yung mga tao na nagpapaimbita). It’s really ghetto to do that. I mean I wouldn’t stoop so low as to almost beg to be invited. *ahem* Anyway, I hope that things will be ok from here on out.